Divorce Survival Guide

Divorce is a very challenging time. During the wedding everyone’s there, gathered around, celebrating with you, your most special day! But during the marriage, barely we have people who check up on us, and even if they do, when problems a raise, it’s very hard for anyone to step into it without making it more complicated. With the emotional side of the feminine energy and the logical instincts of the masculine energy, it’s really hard for these two to co-exist. 

Anyways I trust you all out there, if you have taken the call to divorce your partner, I trust you and your call for it. Marriage is hard and so is divorce. Choose your hard!  

If that’s what you have chosen to do. Here’s a survival guide that barely anyone speaks about. How to survive through these hard times. 

1. Emotional support group - you need your friends who will support you. To deal with those mood swings, those hard feelings, those hard times and to vent out. 
2. Food and Sleep- Take care of your basic needs. It can be very hard to cook and get enough rest everyday when your mind isn’t focused. 
3. Financial situation - figure out your finances. Whether that means more education, or a better job, or saving up some extra cash. 
4. Separation - figure it out. Who moves out. Finding another place. Sorting out the childcare situation. Balancing your job, food and finances. 
5. Apply for the divorce -get a lawyer, figure out the terms and conditions of it. 
6. Have fun - enjoy your life! You deserve the best! 

How I felt suffocated in my marriage

I remember the number of days my husband mixed the dates of his travel. And never once accepted his mistakes and every-time blamed it on my memory. 

I remember the numbers of months my husband ignored my emotional needs after every conflict and argument. 

I remember the number of years my husband blamed me for the house purchase. 

I remember the number of times my husband bought up my past mistakes and questioned me for the things I did years back. 

I remember the number of times my husband complained to our parents on me. 

I remember the number of times for years my husband refused to have physical intimacy with me. 

I remember the number of times my husband skipped our pregnancy doctor appointment and wasn’t present for me during my most stressful times. 

I remember the number of years my husband wasn’t present in our daughter’s life - physically and emotionally and just claimed he supported monetarily. 

I remember the number of times my husband vacated for a month of vacation. 

Reasons for Divorce

1. We married too young and for all the wrong the reasons. 

2. Communication was least effective. 

3. Parents were involved more than needed and they couldn’t help effectively to fix anything. Things only blew up bigger. 

4. We kept changing, evolving and so did our goals and expectations. 

5. Emotional and intimacy needs were not met. 

6. My career was always a problem. I couldn’t keep anything stable. That led to a lot of financial issues. 

7. We were incompatible. Took counseling help too- but in vain. 

8. Breaking this made us Happy! Great friends and focus on parenting Tvisha better. 

9. ENDING this journey on a Happy note!